Frequently Asked Questions

The Decider is a proactive approach to mental health and a consistent language for mental health therapy. If you have a question not answered here, please contact us.

Do I have to be a qualified mental health professional in order to teach my clients The Decider Skills?

No. The skills are for anyone and everyone. If you feel confident in using and teaching the skills, then please share them with your clients. If your clients have severe and enduring mental health issues, you need to be a skilled practitioner.

Do I need to attend a workshop in order to run a skills group for clients?

It is possible to run a client skills group using your copy of The Decider: A Skills Manual. However, attending a workshop is very beneficial, particularly as you'll learn the all-important "style" of the teaching, get hints and tips and skills practice. You will also hear about the ongoing development and evidence base.

I'm the only person in my service who has attended a workshop. Can I run a skills group on my own or with a colleague who hasn't been to a workshop?

We advise that 2 members from each service attend a workshop. It's important that 2 clinicians facilitate a skills group. A 2nd clinician, who hasn't attended a workshop, can act as co-facilitator, and therefore also learn the "style" of The Decider during the group.

What is "the style" of the teaching?

You'll get a feel for "the style" by looking at various clips on the videos page. It's important to be upbeat, positive, warm, empathic, fun-loving, confident, willing to share a little of your own experiences, and to be comfortable doing fun role plays!

Do I have to teach the skills in the same order as on The Decider / in The Decider: A Skills Manual?

Ideally, yes. We advise starting with the Distress Tolerance skills before moving on to the other skill sets. We have to learn to tolerate distress before we can learn to change how we react.

Do I have to teach my clients ALL the skills?

No. You can run shorter groups/workshops with fewer skills, or choose the skills you consider will be most useful to your client group. Teach every client STOPP. This is the cornerstone skill. It leads the client on to use any of the other skills. If you are teaching clients with severe and complex mental health problems, we advise teaching all 32 skills.

Can I pick just a few skills and teach them to clients in my individual sessions?

Yes of course. In our experience, the skills are more effective when taught in a group as there is more of a fun factor. However, the skills can be tailored and personalised much more when taught individually.

My clients have particular needs, can I adapt the skills to help them understand?

Yes, absolutely, adapt the teaching to suit your client group. The written materials are copyrighted and cannot be changed, but we encourage you to be creative with your teaching. You know your clients and how they will learn best. You can tailor your teaching to suit them. We stipulate that you keep the same "visual" for the skills. For example, if you're teaching "STOPP", you need to keep the STOPP sign as that is what appears on The Decider.

Can we use The Decider Life Skills for people with existing mental health problems (rather than proactive mental health)?

Yes absolutely. We encourage flexibility to suit the clients you work with. Do what is best for them. Take their feedback and make changes if required. We facilitate half day workshops for mental health clients using The Decider Life Skills. We facilitate a longer weekly course (10-12 weeks) to teach all 32 of The Decider Skills

Can I order the manuals or handbooks if I live outside the UK or Ireland?

Yes, we send them all over the world. Please order from this page

Now that I've attended a workshop, can I run a workshop for my colleagues?

No. Attending the workshop enables you to teach your client group only. You are welcome to use the PowerPoint presentation in the Resources section to introduce your colleagues to the Decider.
If you are interested in becoming an AUTHORISED TRAINER for The Decider, see Have you got what it takes?

When are the next workshops?

Look at the workshops page which will be kept updated, or leave your contact details here and we'll let you know

Do you offer any workshops or training outside of the UK and Ireland?

We are currently developing online training of The Decider Life Skills, so please revisit the website for more news.

I can't access the online resources. Can you help?

Yes, please email us via the contact page

Where can I give some feedback about The Decider?

Please visit our feedback form

What is your favourite quote?

We use lots of quotes. The one that is most meaningful to The Decider and which we repeat is....."if you always do what you always did, you'll always get what you always got", because The Decider is about taking responsibility for change and the person deciding to do things differently.


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We've worked as CBT therapists for over 35 years.